Private Adoption Process for Moms to Be

Become an Active Waiting Family

This step may actually feel like a thousand steps. You will complete an exhaustive amount of paperwork, questionnaires, interviews and a home study.

The agency will work with you to define your preferences, including post adoption communication with the birth parents. They will also make sure that you meet the requirements to become adoptive parents. Although the requirements to adopt vary depending on the agency and state laws, they may include criteria such as: age, medical and emotional health, criminal background, financial stability, state residency, marital status and more. Some agencies may also require that you attend parenting education. (For more information on navigating state laws specific to LGBTQ adoptions, visit our Navigating Adoption Laws page.

What is a Home Study? – A home study is required in every type of adoption and is an in-depth look into your lives to ensure that you are fit to become parents. Led by a social worker or someone licensed to perform the study, a home study determines your eligibility to become adoptive parents. It will include interviews with you and others living in your home as well as a home inspection. A successful home study results in approval for an adoption to move forward.

Wait for an Adoption Opportunity

The waiting period can be difficult. How long it takes to be matched with a child is difficult to predict and could take anywhere from a few months to a few years. Many factors affect the wait time, including your preferences, location and the type of adoption you have chosen.

Bringing Home Your Child and Finalizing the Adoption

Once you bring your child home, your agency (or attorney) will begin the process of petitioning the court for your adoption. It can take anywhere from 1-18 months for an adoption to become finalized. What happens during this post-placement period?

• ICPC paperwork: If you are bringing your baby home from a different state than the one where you reside, you will need to complete Interstate Compact for the Placement of Children (ICPC). This can take 7-10 business days and you cannot take you baby across state lines until this has been completed.
• Post-placement visits: I After you bring your child home, your homestudy provider will conduct several visits in your home to evaluate and communicate to the court that your family is adjusting well.
• Final Adoption Hearing: Ultimately a judge will review the adoption to be sure that post-placement visits were conducted, that ICPC paperwork was completed in all applicable states and that both birth parent’s rights were legally terminated. When the judge finalizes the adoption, you will officially become your child’s parent(s)!